Whole30 end of days, or…?

05 Sep

So yesterday was our official 30th day of Whole30. Hub and I had several conversations over the weekend about what we are going to do, one of which was kind of an argument. During which Hub told me he never wanted to do this, that I made him do it.


I originally started discussing this with him weeks before we started, and he said if I was going to do it, he was going to do it with me. He said he had hoped it would break some of his bad habits and help him get on track to eating in a more healthy fashion. Now he says this was all my doing and he never wanted to be involved…and he was angry that I seemed to be “bait and switching” him in the last week of the program. In that, I started asking him if he was thinking of how he was going to maintain any of the new habits he had created or if he was going to go back to his old habits. He said, “You said this was only thirty days and now you’re acting like we’re going to eat this way forever!”


I said I wasn’t saying that at all, only that after all the hard work he went through to make all these changes, why would he let that all go and fall back into all the old habits he had. As addicted to sugar and carbs as he was, I was SHOCKED at how well he did getting off all gluten grains and sugar. If that was so successful, why would he go back to eating and drinking all that sugar? Yes, if you want something, eat it consciously, knowing what you are doing. Not mindlessly because that’s what you’ve always done and without any enjoyment of the actual thing you’re eating. I told him, if I want ice cream, I’m gonna eat it. But I’m gonna do it when I want it, not every time we pass an ice cream shop because it’s RIGHT THERE.

He was really mad, but I’m not entirely sure he was mad at me. When we went to the store the next day, we were looking for sausages for him and the ones we saw had sugar in them. I asked him which flavor he wanted and he said no, he didn’t want any of them because they had added sugar. So after all that argument and him blaming me for everything, he’s decided to pay attention to what he’s eating still? I really had hoped this would allow him to modify his eating patterns, not that he give everything up altogether, you know? It’s where I wanted to be, so I thought he would feel the same way.

He said he doesn’t want to have to think about food choices like this. That it’s too hard. I told him I live like this every day because of what I have to eliminate from my diet. That it’s hard, but sometimes we have to do that kind of thing. He’s never had to. Even with cheese, he can eat it to a point, but in excess it gives him stomach issues. So he just eats it and gets sick sometimes and doesn’t get sick other times and oh well! He has diabetes, but he told me it “wasn’t that bad” on a scale of diabetes. Ignoring the fact that he’s on three different diabetes medications to keep him below an 8 A1C…which he’s only a sneeze below. And even the medications are barely working, as his A1C has been rising until this last blood test, where it fell 3/10ths of a percent, to like 7.6. Maybe if he were able to change his eating habits, he’d be able to get off one or two of the meds and find a better way to handle the diabetes. But he doesn’t care and isn’t interested. Or is he? I don’t fucking know anymore.

I told him I’m not going to tell him what to eat. I didn’t do it before this program and I’m not going to afterwards. I thought he wanted to make a change since he was willing to join me in the program, but now I’m not sure. And all I can do is pay attention to what I’m doing and hope things work for me.

Let’s NOT EVEN discuss that he lost 10 pounds in the 30 days and I lost NOTHING.Β Jerk.

We’re supposed to be considering re-introduction to the food groups we eliminated. I’ve been having some stomach issues the last two days–despite not changing any of my freaking foods–so I’m waiting at least a day or two before making any re-introductions. I don’t want to go into the “test” phase already f’d up.

So I lost no weight, no mood differences, I don’t have any increased energy, my stomach and digestion was no different, I didn’t sleep any better, and my overall pain did not change. Pre- re-introduction. Yay.


Tags: , , , , , , , , , , ,

8 responses to “Whole30 end of days, or…?

  1. joey

    September 5, 2017 at 1:09 pm

    Ugh, I feel for you, cause when I did the elimination diet, I found nothing as well. Just anguish over missing soda, ice cream… FOR NO GOOD REASON. I did follow the advice of the rheumatologist and cut back on the big offender that is wheat, and I know you already do that, too. Even so, the wheat didn’t send me reeling with joint pain, even the worst wheats. But, during High Wheat Holidays, lol, I do feel more bleh, I can’t deny it. There’s a threshold I think.
    Of course your hubs lost weight. Men have it much easier with weight loss. It’s more than a bit disturbing. Jerkfaces, all of em!
    I hope he figures out what will work to keep his diabetes under control. Everyone’s body chemistry is so different, I feel like that takes a lot of trial and error. :/
    Sorry Whole 30 didn’t produce any desired results for you. May I suggest ants on a log now? Heh.

    • meANXIETYme

      September 5, 2017 at 1:25 pm

      Maybe when I do re-intro, I’ll find that something does give me issues, even mild ones. It’ll be good info to have, but I’m not sure any of it will require letting go of that food permanently. Just having an understanding of the consequences of what I’m ingesting feels like it would be a bonus. Stupid elimination diets…*grumble grumble*.

      It’s so frustrating with him and this stuff. He lost 10lbs, really didn’t struggle with withdrawal symptoms, and yet he thinks it was a waste of his time. WTF. He does need to lose weight and he does need to deal with his diabetes (the one time he tested blood sugar at the dr’s, he was completely in a good range at that moment…on the whole30…and he didn’t even care!). I know it’s different for everyone, but I didn’t really understand until the argument that he doesn’t think his diabetes is really an issue for him. I really thought he wasn’t changing his diet because he was addicted or was afraid to change…but really he wasn’t changing because he didn’t think it was a problem. Ugh.

      As soon as my stomach is okay, I’m eating double-dark chocolate chip gelato with whipped cream and chocolate sprinkles. For dinner. πŸ˜€

      • joey

        September 5, 2017 at 4:14 pm

        HAHA! Oh girl, it’s gonna taste so good πŸ˜€

      • meANXIETYme

        September 5, 2017 at 4:17 pm

        Yaaaasssss. LOL

  2. April

    September 6, 2017 at 9:01 am

    I’ve been on that “cut out white flour, sugar…etc. I didn’t even think about it, I just did it. I did lose weight BUT did I stick to it? No. Good luck with convincing your husband that you want to change habits because you want to stick around together for a long time. πŸ™‚

    • meANXIETYme

      September 6, 2017 at 9:13 am

      That’s what I told him…that it was for growing old together. Maybe that was why he didn’t want to change. Lol j/K

      Cutting everything out all the time just doesn’t seem sustainable. I hope what I am trying to do will be easier to accomplish….

      • April

        September 6, 2017 at 9:40 am

        Little steps, one at a time. That’s what seems to work for me. However, I have yet to take one little step toward eating healthy and exercising.

      • meANXIETYme

        September 6, 2017 at 9:44 am

        I understand. Sometimes even the little steps are too big. I need to get on an exercising routine but can’t seem to do it…


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: